The Big List To Being A Better Man

Geplaatst op 28-04-2026

In this section of the manosphere we talk a lot about making ourselves better. But how exactly can you do that? Well I’ve been sitting and jotting notes for a couple of weeks now on what it means to be better (as a part of re-writing the seven day challenge) and I have decided to post the big list of being a better man! Below you’ll find 9 things to do as well as links to helpful resources on your quest to being the best man you can be.

Start Working Out

One of the best things you can do for yourself as a man is get in shape. It will make you feel better in so many ways. You’ll be stronger, healthier, faster. You’ll find that women will be more attracted to you on first glance, your confidence will increase, and so will your energy. If you’re determined to become dedicated to anything, structured in your personal life, and disciplined, making yourself work out and get in shape will be one of the fastest ways to get you there.

Start Eating Better

If you want to get in shape, then eating better needs to be on the top of your list. Carbs are great if they are the only food you have access to. They fill you up, store quickly to fat, and are cheap as far as food costs. However: If you really want to get in shape and show off your new physique, then you need a diet that will burn fat and help you build muscle: Paleo. The paleo diet is where you restrict your diet to food that can be hunted or gathered. The diet is a lot of heavy fats and proteins and will help you shed unwanted weight and pack on muscle.

Learn a Language

Learning a second language is one of the greatest things you can do for yourself. By being able to fluently speak more than one language you are opening doors in your personal life, family life, career, and even sex life. You’ll find that you are a more desirable candidate for a job because you have access to a client base and can interface with more people than your monolingual peers. It also raises the bar on your intelligence and makes you seem more attractive to women. I have yet to meet a woman who was turned off by an ability to speak more than one language.

Dress Better

Nothing telegraphs your value to a woman like dressing well. A well dressed man conveys confidence, status, wealth, and power – all of the things an alpha male should give off. Once you step up your style game you will notice that you stand out from the crowd in ways that other men don’t. More women will approach you for conversation and women you approach will hope the interaction goes somewhere. Upping my style game has been one of the best things I’ve ever done.

Ever run out of things to talk about embarrassingly early in an interaction? If you don’t have the money to live a jet-set lifestyle and fly around the world, building your own adventures, the best thing you can do is read about other people’s adventures. Being well read gives you the ability to relay stories and adventures with the feeling of firsthand knowledge and experience, but not the expense of it. Trust me: Women love a good story, even if it isn’t your story. Reading will also help you educate yourself. Once you leave the rigors and confines of academia and are left to your own devices, keeping a consistent reading habit is one of the ways you will continue educate yourself and grow as a person. I’ve found the people who read the least are often the most dull.

Learn & Play The Market

One of the greatest things you can do for yourself is build up multiple streams of income. This is something that wasn’t taught to children from the 80s through today and is one of the reasons our economy is in bad shape. Let me ask you something: If you lost your job right now, how fucked would you be? If your answer is anything other than, “not fucked at all, in fact I’d be glad for the free time” you are doing it wrong. One of the best things you can have for yourself is multiple income streams, and an easy way to start generating long-term income on the side is by playing the market. If you bought Google stock in ’01 (starting at $18 a share, now trading at $700+ a share), or invested in gold 7 years ago ($300 an oz., now trading at nearly $2000 an oz) you wouldn’t be too worried about this recession/depression we’re in.

Work Towards Location Independence

Going along with multiple income streams, another thing you should try and achieve is location independence. In a location independent business, you have the ability to make your money on the go. This can be done as a brick and mortar that you pay other people a small wage to run and you collect left over profits after business cost, or it can be an online business such as affiliate marketing or ebook selling. This sort of online business allows you to make your money from anywhere in the world because you’re moving a digital product online to global consumers. No stocking or shipping on your end means to physical business to anchor yourself to.

Stop Masturbating & Porn

One of the best things you can do for yourself is stop your masturbation and porn habit. You are giving yourself more energy, vitality, and a bigger urge to bang. Guys who indulge in the self pleasure give off a certain pheromone scent that women don’t find the most appealing. On top of that, nothing will motivate you to approach a woman and get laid like having a sack heavy with man-juice. When I first got into the game, I told myself htat I would, under no circumstances, ejaculate unless it was inside of a woman. I went from 3 notches my entire life, to 11 notches by the end of that month. While my success was a combination of boldly trying every game concept I’d ever read and approaching like a motherfucker, none of the motivation would have existed if I had been masturbating. Shit just makes you lethargic, you know?

Learn How To Cook

Bitches love food. If you don’t know how to cook you need to get your head out of your ass and start reading Chad Daring’s food blog. Cooking is an essential man skill. If you’re not marriage minded – I don’t think very many of us bloggers are, anyway – then you need to accept the fact that you’re going to be cooking for yourself a great many nights. You’re going to want to enjoy those nights! Another great benefit of knowing how to cook is being able to get pussy from it. Women love it when a man can cook, and it gives her a great reason to come over to your house and have one on one time with you. One of my favorite ‘date’ moves is to invite a chick over on a sunday to cook home-made pasta. I start the marinara in the morning using fresh, whole tomatoes, and a few hours after lunch when she gets there, I show her how to spice up the marinara, how to make pasta from scratch, and then we work on side dishes and deserts together. There is a solid hour or two of down time during which it is extremely easy to squeeze out a bang – not to mention the blowy-jay she will feel compelled to give you afterwards.